Dating is fun, right? You meet someone new, go out on cute dates, and feel loved and wanted. But it's not all sunshine and rainbows. Who knows if the person sitting across from you is the right fit for you? You don't. Thus, you must keep your eyes open and get to know the person before you fall head over heels in love with them.
Below are some signs you should look for in a partner to avoid toxic relationships and promote a healthy partnership.
Controlling Behavior
The first warning sign, which is outright abusive, is control. Some signs that your partner may attempt to control you are nagging you to know where you are, who you are with, and what you do at every given time. They might even tell you how you should move, dress, or even who you should associate with.
Extreme Jealousy
In almost every relationship, there is a minor element of jealousy; however, excessive jealousy is a sign of concern. If your partner lashes out if you talk to other people, starts accusing you of cheating even if there is no basis for it, or gets jealous now and then, then that should raise the alarm. Such behavior can escalate quickly and prove quite toxic for the involved parties.
Cut off from Friends and Family
Does your partner isolate you from your friends and family? Are they the ones that cause conflicts or make you feel guilty for attending a family member's or friend's occasion? This is aimed at making you wholly dependent on them; hence, you cannot look for help or even think of leaving the relationship.
Disrespect for Boundaries
In particular, the relationship built between two people must encompass respect for one's boundaries. If the partner forces you to do something you dislike, gets personal, snoops, or disregards your wants and desires, they do not respect you. This may involve demanding sex, sifting through your messages, or just ignoring your boundaries.
Why You Should Read "Caress of the Bête Noire"
If this sounds like your situation, then Samuel P. Frearson's memoir titled "Caress Of The Bête Noire" will provide solace by narrating the author's personal experience in a long-term, narcissistic relationship while explaining what red flags were overlooked and the torments one went through. It gives the reader an ugly, honest view and valuable tips on identifying an abusive partner.
Conclusion
By identifying these signs, one can guard against an unhealthy or abusive relationship. If you notice these signs in the person you are involved with, listen to your gut and consult the appropriate person.
For a deeper understanding and real-life perspective on dealing with abusive relationships, get your copy of Samuel P. Frearson's "Caress Of The Bête Noire." This memoir not only shares a personal story of overcoming a narcissistic partner but also guides how to break free and reclaim your life after an abusive relationship.
Find out more about this emotionally raw and thought-provoking book here. Remember, you deserve a relationship where you feel safe, valued, and loved.
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