Is my partner cheating on me?

Is my partner cheating on me?
5 min read
24 August 2023

There are many signs that a boyfriend, partner, husband or wife is unfaithful.

But it's usually the following things that reveal his cheating behavior: .

*Changing habits with cell phones - Cell phones suddenly become more often hidden.

*Changing hygiene habits - you start to be more conscious of your image

*Changing daily routines and habits

...... Of course, there are more signs.

I did a big survey on exactly the signs of cheating gathered from my own actual experience.

Is it true that once you are unfaithful, you will be unfaithful again?

No, it's a myth.

Some people cheat again and again and can't stop.

This is the infamous infidelity I mentioned above.

It could be the hunt, the thrill, falling in love, and many other things that could be the trigger.

But for others, it's a one-time event that they may even regret.

My husband/wife has been unfaithful to me - what do we do now?

First of all, you need to have a serious conversation and put all the issues on the table.

Cheating does not mean your relationship has to end.

I just want to make sure of that!

But there's no doubt that there's a lot of work to be done in building trust. Maybe with Parcoach Frederiksberg. Someone who has been cheated on is likely to be angry, hurt and disappointed - and perhaps doubt their feelings.

If you're skeptical about going and staying, I'd suggest you wait.

Especially if there are children involved.

When the first part of the emotional crisis has calmed down and you're no longer panicking, there may be clarity.

The big emotional crisis is when the cheating is discovered.

I have experienced this many times in my own practice ......

Research on infidelity shows that in fact ...

When the unfaithful partner realizes the consequences of the infidelity, they can feel very bad about their actions, and when the infidelity is first discovered and brought to light, stress, depression, and/or anxiety can ensue.

Norwegian studies on infidelity have shown that within the next five years, about 50% of infidelity sufferers will develop mental illness.

Examples include anxiety disorders, depression and even post-traumatic stress disorder.

As a result, people who have been unfaithful may also suffer from emotional distress.

Although this emotional turmoil is very different from someone who has experienced infidelity.

For people who have experienced infidelity, the following are usually present: broken trust

  • Loss of trust
  • dishonesty
  • Lies
  • Being lied to
  • Images that won't go away from the "inner gaze"
  • Anxiety, heart palpitations and stress symptoms
  • Thoughts about the future
  • Uncertainty about one's own worth
  • Feelings of self-blame for what happened: "Maybe it's my fault" (No, it's not my fault)
  • (I'm not the culprit, or I'm not) In some cases, there is a marked increase in libido, which is often the aftermath.
  • Trying to piece together the story to form a picture
  • Anger, sadness, rage and grief

The problem for the initiator of adultery is often this: their own perception of themselves, and the initiator of the adultery.

  • The adulterer's perception of themselves as a "decent person" is often shattered.
  • In the case of a prolonged affair, there may be a lot of lying and hiding.
  • Guilt.
  • Sometimes the guilt is so strong that it's impossible to talk about it at all because the shame is so overwhelming that you just want it to "go away" (and no, pretending it didn't happen is not a good idea!).
  • You feel pointless and don't know how to apologize and make up for the damage done
  • Symptoms of sleep disturbances and stress
  • The unfaithful partner often realizes how much pain their actions or inactions have caused them and how long it will take to emotionally cleanse and heal.

When infidelity is discovered and brought to light, there are often many emotions that need to be released, cleansed and processed.

This takes a long time for most people.

It also takes longer than you might initially think.

If we're talking about long-term affairs and lies that lasted for years, then you can expect that moving on with your life may take years.

Of course, things will get better over time if you're actively working on it.

But.

It will take a long time for you to trust again someone you once trusted 100%.

And this person has destroyed your trust (in this relationship) in the worst way possible.

I've helped hundreds of couples.

Both in my own practice and through my webinars.

So I know that it is possible to move on with your life after cheating.

Even though it's a long and difficult process.

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Waleed Asif 40
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