It is wishful thinking to say you will walk through life without experiencing pain. There will be times when you will fall, and the tears will flow freely, but no one will help you up. You will find life trying to pull you out of your comfort zone every step of the way.
But in the face of it all, how does one endure and come out stronger?
Is there a way we can make ourselves resilient through the pain and tears? It is important to understand the nature of suffering to prepare and strategize an action plan to cultivate resilience.
Pain can be of two types. One is the physical kind. This pain requires you to give your body time, nutrition, and energy to run its course and eventually heal. When you work out, you damage your muscles to help them rebuild and become stronger and more resilient.
Then there is the emotional pain. This type of pain is much more complex, one that may take years to heal. Depending on the emotional trauma, which may be caused by the death of a loved one, a breakup, or abuse, the time it will take you to heal will eventually vary.
But how do we become emotionally resilient?
One of the most effective ways to become resilient is also one of the most difficult. One must switch up one's perspective regarding hardship. Instead of feeling sorry for ourselves facing adversity, why not look at your situation as an opportunity to learn something positive that will stay with us for the rest of our lives?
Tears are not a sign of weakness but an act of catharsis. With each tear, it is as though your soul is cleansing. In moments of vulnerability lies boldness, and in pain lies strength. Pain has the power to forge mere metal into gold. It galvanizes you into becoming a more fulfilled and well-rounded individual.
Pain teaches, and as it subsides, you can become a pillar of strength for those around you. It is not about enduring the pain and suffering but focusing on the transformative process. Focus on the new you that you will become.
Often, through grief, we become addicted to pain and use our predicament to avoid investing in ourselves and healing. But we owe it to ourselves, those who believe in us, those who have left us in good spirits, and our loved ones who have passed due to unfortunate circumstances that we become resilient through pain and tears.
In I.L. Grady's book, Life Without You, Edris can relate to grief through loss as her love story with Jaiden ends in heartbreak. Ryland, a loyal friend, stands by Edris during her worst time, and their connection deepens. Will she be able to finally become resilient through the pain? Only one way to find out.
Life Without You is now available on Amazon.
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